According to Leah Ibañez-Yumul, an educator and child specialist, that some parents mistakenly associate positive reinforcement with bringing or giving material rewards. What is the difference between positive reinforcement vs. bribery? In bribery, you promise something bigger than the behavior you are expecting. You tend to negotiate or beg, or even trying to increase the value of the prize just to make it sure that the behavior you wish is being performed. In positive reinforcement, there are still rewards but in the form of verbal encouragement, small tokens or a reward given is commensurate to the positive behavior exhibited by the child. Material rewards need not be expensive; it can be their favorite cartoon character stickers, erasers and many other small things. Rewards can be also non-material, and it is highly recommended such as a hug, a wink, a kiss and a compliment for a job well done.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Friday, March 18, 2011
How do you discipline your child? What is your discipline style? Most parents admitted that they spank their child at least once for uncontrolled behavior. In behavioral studies, there are three approaches to bring out a desired behavior which can be found in parents’ discipline styles. These are the positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, and punishment.
Positive reinforcement entails by providing an evident like reward or praise which increases the possibility of the desired behavior being repeated. For negative reinforcement a desired behavior is drawn out through elimination of an adverse event. For example, the child learns to wake up early for school because getting caught from traffic makes him queasy. While for punishment, which often confused with negative reinforcement, involves an adverse event to decrease or stop a negative behavior. According to child experts, among the three discipline styles, positive reinforcement is the best way to draw out positive behavior in children and even keep negative behavior in check.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Friday, March 4, 2011
- Take care of your body. Eat, sleep and exercise. These are the very important activity that you should follow. If your body is fatigued, you cannot be able to avoid from burning out and piling on stress no matter what you try.
- Build a support system. Count on the people around you either your spouse, parents, helpers whom you can call and talk with. Give your trust to them that they will be there to help your need.
- Learn to communicate with your teen. It is a good stress releasing if you have an open communications with your teen or anybody in the family. It lessens the burden that you feel at the moment.
- Take some me-time on a regular basis. Set a schedule even though you don’t feel stressed as preventing it is your mean goal.
- Mange your parental expectations and guilt. Nobody is perfect in this world, so do not expect that you can be everything to your kids and don’t expect him to be the same this might result to frustrations and failure. Then you’ll have to deal with guilt feeling.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
If we are stressed out after a long day work from the office, sometimes we can affect some of the family members especially the children. According to some study, more than 2,000 children and adults, 90% of kids say that they know when their parents are stressed because they see them arguing and complaining or their parents won’t mind them which resulted them to felt sad, worried and frustrated. The survey reported that 70% of parents say their own anxiety affects their children. Given those economic pressures along the way, how can parents address the effects of their stress on their children? Below are some of the tips to minimize the effects of stress.
1. Acknowledge it. Don’t underestimate how tension influences the children because children will knew if you are stressed out.
2. Watch yourself. You have to check how you react during anxiety. The children will get the negative vibes from you and it puts pressure on them. Anxiety can make them nervous which could harm their health and behavior.
3. Teach your kids. Children will look up on what you do, so manage your stress by using healthy activities, such as listening to music or exercising just to calm your nerves.
4. Play. According to research that play is an important way to take away stressed. It promotes bonding between parents and children.
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Every parent wants their kids to be of good health always. While it’s not possible to shield them completely from catching cold and flu especially if they are already schooling, the best that parents should do is to teach them healthy health habits to boost their immune systems and decrease the chance of getting infected. There are few tips to follow which somehow prevent kids from getting sick.