Friday, September 24, 2010

What Happen to Children With Too Relax Parents

When there are so strict parents, there are also parents who are too lax when it comes to child discipline. Relax parents are simply get rid off all the rules they implemented. They have all the rules set in the family but when time comes for imposing it they deviate or simply not doing it. The effects of inconsistent child discipline or a lack of any child discipline can create problems for the child that is just as bad as having too many rules. Children may feel insecure or will develop anxiety or stress when there is lack of consistent guidance. Children who do not boundaries of their actions while they are young may experience difficulty with self-control in the later part of their life. This may lead to social problems and relationship issues as they will appear to be self-centered and they are expecting to get their way at all times, never compromising with others. A very relax parents teaches a child to be passive-aggressive behavior. Parents who are too permissive send a message that they don’t care and this “I don’t care” attitude which often transfers tot eh child. They feel that they are above the law and do not consider the needs of others. That is why what may seem to be working at home in your child’s early years can turn into disappointment and disillusionment when he’s older and starts to experience the laws and some limits in the outside world like in school.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

What Happen to Children with Too Strict Parents?

To be a parent is a very tough and hard job. It requires patience and understanding. It is a job that nobody can achieve to be perfect especially in terms of discipline. When parents practice child discipline that is too harsh, children can get the message of having no freedom. Some will feel that they have no control over their lives. Some children may question the arbitrary nature of their parents' rules and become distrustful of parents and other authority figures. Eventually, the child may not trust a mature adult enough to seek advice when they are grappling with important issues. In the toddler years this may not seem so important, but if years of heavy handed control prevent your teen from talking to you about sex, relationships or drugs, the consequences of his misguided actions at that point will be difficult to reverse. Strict child discipline can also exploit a child's emotional development if he is not permitted to make mistakes and learn from them. Keeping such a tight control on a child that he is never allowed to fail prevents him from experiencing life's natural consequences. Those consequences are responsible for him to grow mature over the years. That is why it is better for him to experience these consequences as a child than to deny him which could lead to extreme risk taking when he's older. In addition, parents who are too strict will present children a poor adult role model. This is especially true if the strict discipline comes from an adult who makes instant judgments, doesn't take the time to look at the big picture, desires instant gratification, has an inability to cope with anxiety or cannot control her own emotional reactivity. Children also need adult role models who offer a more balanced approach to problem solving and those adults should be able to do so in a calm and controlled manner.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Happy Eid-il Fitr!

Eid il-Fitr is a Muslim holiday that marks the end of Ramadan. It is an Islamic holy month of fasting. Eid is an Arabic word which means "festivity", while Fitr means "conclusion of the feast" and so the holiday celebrates the conclusion of the thirty days of dawn to sunset fasting during the entire month of Ramadan.
So, to our Muslim brothers and sisters, Happy Feast Day!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Happy Birthday Mama Mary!

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