Friday, September 30, 2011

What is Child Discipline?

Discipline is not only good for children but it is necessary for their happiness and well-being. It is a vital healthy child development. Without discipline, children lack the tools necessary to navigate relationships and challenges in life such as self-discipline, respect for others, and the ability to cooperate with peers.
There are some parents that they don’t want to discipline or may be hesitant to discipline their children because they want to avoid conflict or they don’t want to have their children got angry with them. Others may be unable or unwilling to devote time to discipline their children because of busy works. And for others may have experience unpleasant memories of being disciplined when they were young and they want to make things easier on their own kids by giving them a relaxing rules and more freedom.
But the fact is discipline is not about creating conflict with children. Discipline when done correctly is not about trying to control your child but it is about showing her how to control her own behavior. It is not about punishing for doing something wrong but about setting clear parameters and consequences for breaking some rules. In that case she will learn how to discipline herself. A child who is taught about right from wrong and has a solid knowledge of what is negative and positive behavior will know when she has done something wrong. She will want to behave correctly out of a desire to be a good member of her family and society not because she fears punishment.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Why Kids Are Bored At School?

Some children complained that they are bored at school. Usually they are telling that they don’t enjoy the topic or skill that they are learning or less classroom activities. Complaint like these must be taken into actions because it can lead to real distress and can even lead to school avoidance or school refusal behaviors. Some of the reasons why kids are bored at school are:

1. Under-Challenged - Intelligent students who don’t need a lot of instruction to master a skill or start out ahead of the rest of the class often complain of being bored at school. What they’re really telling is they are not being challenged by the work in the classroom. Under-challenged students are typically very capable and very smart but surprisingly these children don’t always present that way. They become sloppy in their work, don’t even study but still they get good grades.

2. Under-Motivated -Under-motivated students also complain of being bored in school, but not because they already know what’s being taught. This complaint is different. Often “school is boring” is paired with “that’s why I don’t do the work” or “that’s why I don’t pay attention.” An under-motivated child is not the same as a lazy child. Cases like the lack of motivation is tied in to a feeling that what he’s learning isn’t personally important, that the learning process has no meaning for him and his life. For other children it could be the sign of an underlying issue, like childhood depression, ADHD, or other learning disability.

3. Under-Connected - Children who have trouble connecting with their peers and/or their teacher may be bored in school because they feel lonely. If your child hasn’t built a comfortable relationship with anyone in his classroom, he may feel as he has nowhere to turn to when he needs help. What he needs is the sense of belongingness.

4. Under-Skilled - Not all students are gifted with the skills that they need to become successful in the classroom. The bottom line is that if a child is saying he’s bored because he doesn’t know how to study for the tests, create plans or paragraphs but what he really means is “I don’t know how to do this, so I don’t even want to try.”

Your children maybe experiencing getting bored at school but before jumping a conclusions you should discover what your child is really telling you. They may have other problems at school. That's why communication is very important between parent and children.

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