Friday, June 18, 2010

Special Communication in Order to Harvest a Well-adjusted Child.

Most parents nowadays view the generation gap as inevitable, yet they recognize that good communication is basic to maintaining good discipline and to establish good values. They wanted to keep the channels of communication open and understandable to hose that have been clogged. But the question is how? Although there is no exact formula to use in order to patch up the gap every time it exist but there are principles and guidelines for parents to follow. First, it is important to establish what communication is, what it is not, and what a parent can expect from it. There parents who are confuse on verbal contact with communication. They think that if their lips or their child’s lips are moving, it is already communicating. But communication as defined by Webster, it is a two way conversation, the one who gives the information while the other receives the information by listening.
Most kids complain that no one ever listens to them, that no one understands how they feel, that they are nagged all the time. And most of the parents acted like sergeant barking many commands to their children.
Researchers have learned some techniques which can be use by parents to open up the clogged lines of communication. It must start with attitude which is called the attitude of “acceptance”. Acceptance enables a child to realize his potential, but acceptance must be demonstrated so that he can feel it. We can communicate our feelings and attitudes of acceptance to a child in so many ways. Many times the lines of communication between parent and child are severed because the child detects feelings of rejection. That is why the child will refrain from expressing his true feelings and thoughts to spare himself from pain. One way to convey your child of acceptance is by saying “I understand what you mean” or I say what you are saying”.
Another way of showing acceptance is Non-interference. It is shown by allowing the child to play or participate in activities without interrupting him because to interrupt a child because you want to give instructions, suggestions or offer assistance while he is engaged in an activity reveals your lack of trust in the abilities of the child. Therefore let him finished what he has started because meddling him while in the middle of the activities conveys un-acceptance. Though non-interference conveys acceptance, they both affect the self-worth of the child, either positively or negatively.


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