Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Parenting Techniques

Most of the parents based their parenting style on how they brought up by their parents. And we expect our own children to react the way we did. But there are some techniques that may not effective to your own children, so it’s time to make a change. There are at least 10 strategies that can be more effective in child rearing.

1. Start with Behavior Analysis
Think of bad behavior as a mystery. Who's responsible? What did they do? When, where, and why did it happen? Jumping to the same disciplinary conclusions every time your child misbehaves is like arresting the butler any time there's a murder to be solved. Be a good parenting detective and help you catch the real cause, and make the punishment fit the crime.
2. Use a Behavior Chart
Think your child won't understand/comply with/care about a behavior chart? If you're thinking about a traditional chore-for-reward system, you may be right. But with a little creativity, you should be able to come up with a chart or similar motivational scheme that will give your child a reason to be more pleasing'.
3. Choose Your Battles
"Why does everything have to be such a fight?" That's something you may have asked your child a time or ten, but it's a question worth asking yourself, too: Why does everything have to be such a fight? Is every battle you choose worth picking? Keep in mind that keeping the peace is more important than keeping up appearances.
4. Count to 10
"One-two-three" may be magic for some kids, but children with special needs may require extra time to do all the strategizing and motor planning it takes to move peacefully from one past time to the next. Forcing the issue with a quick three-count will most likely end in crabbiness and bad behavior , try controlling yourself.
5. Keep a “Bag of Tricks”
Amuse. Bribe. Comfort. Distract. Having a constant, and constantly updated, supply of items and ideas to cover those ABCDs for your child can make the difference between a whiny, fussy, tantrum time and a fun, funny, contented one. Captivate the attentions of your little ones because children love to do things in a fun way.
6. Set Get-able Goals
It's not bad to be ambitious for your child, or to have high hopes. But if you're setting the bar higher on a regular basis than your child can possibly reach, you're creating a constant experience of failure, fear and frustration that can come to no good. Arrange successes for your child by keeping goals in a realistic way and then build on that success to whatever heights your child can attain. Don’t be angry with your child because he failed to what you expect to have.
7. Keep Track of Transitions
Transitions are tricky for children with special needs, and for their stressed-out parents, too. Better to think those dangerous changes of activity through beforehand than deal with the inevitable meltdown that occurs after a mismanaged one.
8. Say What You Mean
Take a good look at the way you talk to your child, and you may see that what you have here is a failure to communicate.
9. Scout Time-Out Spots
Time-out can be an effective tool for kids with special needs, but as with everything else, you'll need to be creative. Sending a child to his room when his room is where he wants to be is counter-productive and not so helpful when you're at the mall or the store or the park.
10. Keep Looking for a Better Way
No two kids are alike, no two families are alike, and no behavior plan works for everyone. Even when you do find something successful, chances are your children will grow out of it like a favorite pair of pants. Reading parenting books that deal specifically with special-needs behaviors that can bring you a constant supply of fresh ideas and strategies. Pick and choose to find your own top ways of dealing with your unique child.


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