Positive Parenting - One Way to Stop Temper Tantrum

It is really hard to stop temper tantrum especially in the middle of screaming and crying but it can be done if a parent knows how to deal it in a positive way. There are several techniques to know on how to handle tantrum child using positive parenting.

1. Redirect the child’s attention to stop the tantrum. Children are easily to be distracted. If you can steer the attention of the child to another direction and help him focus his attention on something that will makes him happy, that will make him calm down his emotions.
2. Lift your child up or put him on your lap while whispering and touching his hair. Because by holding him, you are helping him to contain his emotions. Your calmness and your gentle touch will help him calm down.
3. Offer a small reward for having a good behavior. Most of the children respond well to positive reinforcement. Remind him that when he consistently behave he will get a reward.

As parent it is really important to know the techniques of calming down our child especially when they are upset. A parent should have a controlled emotions in order to adjust the behavior of the child.

How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

Actually temper tantrums are part of the development of the child. And no parent is exempted as there is no child immune to them. However, parent must have to pay attention and behave proactively in order to reduce or somehow eliminate them completely.

Parent should note the following tips on how to eliminate or how to handle a child having a temper tantrum.

1. Note when was the previous tantrums occur. Take note the location, time and determine the emotional state of the child when he had tantrums. Study the occurrence of the event when he has tantrums.
2. The next time when a tantrum begins, ask yourself if what the child is feeling during that moment, is he hungry or tired? Try to cool him down by giving something that he wants to until tantrums subside.
3. Monitor any loss of control. The child likes to feel as if he have some say or what to do in his life. For example if he wants to decide what to wear then let him be. It might be the beginning of tantrums if you go against him.
4. Help your children by communicating your plans for the day. If you want to him to do something new announce the changes 5-10 minutes ahead of time to allow them to adjust.
5. If the tantrum occurs in public place, stop and breathe for awhile. In a calm voice warn the child about what will happen if he continues what he is doing. If he continues his tantrum then impose the consequences.
6. Discuss to your child afterwards about his tantrum. Explain to him how you feel bad about it and what will be the effect to him to everyone who saw him. And that next time he should not do it again.
7. If tantrums happens at home, sometimes don’t mind him, let him expressed his feelings until he will be exhausted and tired and then he will stopped from crying or screaming.

Signs if the Child is Having Temper Tantrum

Temper tantrum is one of the problems that a parent should face alongside for having a child. Below are some of the typical examples of a temper tantrum.

Your child is having a temper tantrum if :

1. The child is throwing, pushing and kicking things as he can see and hold.
2. The child is crying or screaming about nothing at all and goes on and on.
3. The child is lying on the floor while kicking and rolling around the place.
4. The child is not listening to anything you say or do. Whatever you do or say has no impact to him and he continues to scream and kick.

If your child is experiencing all of these behaviors, then your child is most likely to have temper tantrum.

Steps to Avoid Discoloration of Baby's Teeth

Good oral hygiene begins from the moment the tooth comes out from the baby’s gum. So proper caring for the tooth and preventing from discoloration, is a big responsibility of every parents. Though it’s normal for baby’s teeth to be discolored because of the foods that they eat but mothers should take steps to prevent that from happening. Below are some of the steps to follow.

1. Start brushing baby’s teeth at least twice a day. Use infant toothpaste and a toothbrush designed for baby's teeth, with small, soft bristles.

2. Let the baby handle or hold his own toothbrush, if he can manage to do so. Even chewing on a toothbrush can be adequate to clean the teeth for this will teach and encourage the child to brush often as the child gets older.

3. If the baby is taking medicine, brush his teeth after administering antibiotics, or vitamins. Frequent use of antibiotics or even vitamins can lead to discoloration of baby teeth because that’s what happens to my child.

4. When feeding bottles for babies remove the bottle from his mouth especially if he falls asleep. It is because bacteria can be form from the liquid which remains in the mouth and can cause discoloration of the teeth.

5. Avoid giving to baby’s drinks with sugar content like juices or milk after brushing during the night. Remember the teeth has already been clean and therefore do not give them anymore foods to eat because it can lead to tooth decay and discoloration.
6. Bring the baby to the dentist for check-ups as soon as the baby teeth appear.
7. Use a small amount of toothpaste when brushing baby’s teeth and never allow them to swallow the toothpaste.
8. Don’t allow your child to brush their teeth alone, it should be under your supervision.
9. Never put sugar to the pacifier especially when a child is going to sleep.
10. Don’t allow the child to chew food and stay longer in his mouth especially sweet and starchy foods.

Managing Straight and Curved Lines in Life

I hate clutters and chaos. They are disturbing and abominable for me. It irritates me whenever I heard noise and shouting. All I want is peace and order especially in the house. I love to live in an orderly and organized environment. I was very particular about everything. Then, I got married. Life was as fine as i expected it to be. Until children started coming, our abode became more topsy-turvy. There were clutters here and everywhere in the house. Toys and slippers are around the corner of the house. Appliances were destroyed. I scolded them but there is no effect, everything now now became chaotic. Until I got a bright idea. I lowered my housekeeping standards. Instead of expecting everything to be prim and proper I gave them the freedom to act their age, allowing some leverage for all the clutter that kids aged from 3 to 6. In accepting the clutter my children made, I had also given them the freedom to be themselves. I let them learn that there should be some order in the house. Young as they were, they should learn that order and organization of things inside the house is important.
Young mothers sometimes forget that children are children and they have to act their age. We push them to grow up quickly, expecting them to act as adults. We sometimes ask them to make straight lines when all they can manage to draw at the moment is a crooked lines.
Motherhood has taught me that there are more important things than an impeccably clean and orderly house. It is by giving balance and harmony of crooked and straight lines in life.

Videography-Catches Every Moment

Everyone deserves to have all their precious moments to be remembered until to the rest generation. That is why technology is evolving and creating advance and easy way of preserving the once in a lifetime moment of every person. If before the only way of capturing momentous events like weddings, baptism, burial and etc. is through the use of camera, but in this time a new way of preserving those moments lively is through viodeography or video coverage. And there is a man who could give you the best video coverage more than you expect to have. He is Buddy Gancenia. He is a highly experienced producer-Vidoegrapher and editor for more than 15 years experienced working to the country’s top rated television networks in the Philippines like ABS-CBN and GMA7. He begun his video career way back in 1991 where he was one of the production staff of Negosyete, a livelihood program aired in GMA7, then he moved to ABS-CBN and handled a more entrenched post production shows like Sharon, ASAP, Game KNB and lately the Pinoy Big Brother which gave him the opportunity to enhanced his skills when he undergone trainings together with the Endemol crew of Big Brother in Netherlands. For him he has learned and mastered the skills needed to take the craft of vidoegraphy beyond the broadcast industry and moving towards to the people who wanted his services in videograhy. He is accepting wedding video, corporate video and video coverage of any occasions. For more additional information regarding his services you can visit his site.

Shy Away

Shyness is an irrational fear of speaking up and afraid of being humiliated or ignored. Well, I used to be one of them. I’ve been an inwardly directed person. I prefer to process the world internally, answer my own questions and come to a conclusion before speaking up. Why some people are afraid of speaking out? The main causes maybe are oversensitivity and insecurity. When you associate speaking out with pain and makes you embarrass then you’ll have to avoid speaking up. Unfortunately, shyness is an enormous detriment to success.

For naturally quiet people, the fear of speaking can arise from a few bad experiences, especially at an early age. When an adult reacts angrily or dismissively to an attempt at self expression, it’s natural to take it personally and shy away from future expression. Even if this only happens once or twice, people tend to exaggerate these incidents until they become mental monsters. A key to overcoming shyness is recognizing these perceived slights for what they are–meaningless. When someone reacts to you negatively, don’t take it personally.

It’s also essential to let go of bad experiences. When you dwell on a bad experience, it grows into something much more frightening than reality. Don’t do this to yourself! The more you think about a bad experience the more power you give it. Don’t blame yourself.
Another important step in overcoming shyness is realizing that other people are basically the same as you. Everyone is insecure and afraid of embarrassment. Other people usually aren’t as smart as you think. If you have a question, chances are someone else is wondering about the same thing. Don’t let one or two bad experiences dictate your entire opinion of humanity.

The second cause of shyness is insecurity. If you don’t think you have anything valuable to contribute, what’s the point of risking embarrassment? To get over this you need to recognize the merit of your own thoughts and the value they present to others. To reach your potential, you need to share yourself with the world. Your brilliant insights don’t hold any value until they’ve enlightened someone else. Force yourself to speak up, especially when you don’t want to. Sit in the front of the room and make yourself visible. Understand that sharing your insights with people is doing them a favor. Once you get used to opening up, you’ll notice how positively people react. This will build your self confidence and faith in the goodwill of others.
Overcoming shyness isn’t just something you should do for yourself; it’s also part of being a contributing member of society. When you have a thought or idea that deserves to be heard, you’re not only hurting yourself by keeping quiet, you’re hurting the people around you. Other people need you. They need your intelligence and insight. They need your help to work through problems. By hiding behind shyness, you limit the help you can give to your friends, family members, and colleagues.

Don’t keep your talent inside, share it when there's an opportunity so it can grow and flourish.
Don't let shyness blocks your way to a successful life. That is why we need to develop to our kids to have self confidence so that they will not be experiencing shyness.